Self-employment is a very attractive idea. In his poem ‘Invictus,’ English poet William Ernest Henley writes: “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul,” lines that have since been quoted by Winston Churchill, Nelson Mandela and Barack Obama.
Business is relational - it can’t operate in isolation. It is symbiotic, contractural and ongoing. It has both bonuses and penalties, benefits and consequences. But at its core, it is intensely human.
Recently a client, who is a very fit athlete and who recently ran an ultra-challenge which was nearly 60 kms and uphill, told me she would rather do that than speak in front of a group of people!
Nigel Young - 4WALLSI’ve always liked the model of the 3-legged stool when trying to establish a foundation for any enterprise. So when it comes to business, my 3 legs are:
I have always struggled with self confidence, yet I seem to be able to cold call, make appointments to meet with high profile strangers, put my hat in to the ring on occasion, and I’m about to have an exhibition of my photographs.
We end up having this argument with ourselves – on the one hand we have the willpower to get these things done, but our imagination completely takes over and not only leads the way but wins!
When we think of positive thinking, what do we think about? Stopping negative thinking; starting positive thinking! Black vs White! Supposedly easy, but easier said than done!
Our fears cause us to avoid things in our business or working lives stopping us achieving. We all have fears, whether it’s fear of success or failure; fear of change or public speaking; fear of changing jobs or starting up a new business.
Are you like a bird in the wind flying on the thermals with a clear direction of where you’re going before you take off, or are you making it up as you go along, deciding on a course of action as you go!
Articles tell us that successful people plan their days; don’t let interruptions hinder their day; that they deal with priorities first - so what does that make us? Not successful OR human!
Remember the song ‘Don’t Worry Be Happy’ by Bobby McFerrin? One line in the lyrics say, ‘in every life we have some trouble’, and I believe this is true for all of us, don’t you?
One of the most common questions in a job interview is ‘What motivates you?’ Whilst some of us may have our ‘go to’ answer for this to ‘please’ the prospective employer, what we aren’t addressing is answering the question for real – for US!
If the answer to any of these questions was “not good” and you either don’t know how to change it or can’t seem to do what is required to change it, then you almost certainly need some help.
Like the idiom ‘can’t see the wood for the trees’, sometimes we just can’t see things clearly because we are guilty of often over-analysing. Why? Because we are too closely involved.
We are often taught at a young age that we must put others before ourselves. I know my mother always took the smallest piece of meat for herself, and if there wasn’t enough of anything, she was the one who went without. She didn’t seem to mind.